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26 December 2015

Tumblr, I'm lookin' at you.

UPDATE: I have since learned that "Down With Cis" was a reaction to a false story and is funny. I am a dumb shit who doesn't read properly. :3c

Hiya!

I've been meaning to say this for a while. I am well aware people are going to read a bit of the article and promptly slam me to the ground. I'll just politely ask that you read it all the way through.


So. I spend a lot of time on Tumblr. I don't miss a single post from the people I follow. When I get home from work, I scroll through all the posts I missed while I was away, chuckling, giggling and generally losing my drink.

Tumblr is a great place where you choose who to follow, what to follow and everyone's tumblr experience is different. Mine is generally full of shitposts and stupid vines and pictures, and I love it.

But there's an extremely... toxic side to tumblr. It's the overly offended, knighting population of the site who can turn a simple innocent post into a war of being "offended" and misunderstanding.

I am aware that I am Cis, male, and white. And no, fuck you, I'm not apologising for that. I am what I am, and I'm going to rock it. Because what I am doesn't make me a chauvanist pig. I try to be understanding. I try to see things the way others see things. I am aware there's oppression in the system, there is legitimate homo/transphobia across the world. I'm not saying there isn't.

I see so many posts of people making innocent textposts suddenly political. I've seen users dragged through the mud over accusations from over 5 years ago. We all need to learn that people change, I mean, fuck. I've changed a lot even over the last 2 years. 23 year old me would be fucking disgusted at how open and shitposty I am recently. But that's because I've taken medication to help me stop being angry. To stop being overly analytical, and to (mostly) stop worrying.

I'm not saying everyone on that side of tumblr needs medication. Far from it.
What I'm trying to say is - Please take a day off. I know you want to do something good for the world, for the internet. But aggressively targeting users who are either joking, or you know - Don't know better - is going to prove detrimental to the cause.

I'm not sure if you've noticed, but screaming profanities and calling for people to die generally results in blocks and being ignored, even becoming hostile, or more hostile to whatever you were screaming at them for.

I've seen entire hate movements spring up within the site. "Down with Cis." among others. I'm going to be honest here. It's Fucking Childish. Do not fight hate with more hate. It only stokes the fire further.
Lets say I poked you right in the eye. It might have been an accident, or I might have done it on purpose. If you jab me in both of my eyes, I know that was on purpose then. I'm either going to jab you right back and call you a cunt, or just hate you outright, because you're a spiteful little shite.
Whereas if you say "Dude, what the fuck was that for?" I'll probably apologise because I'm not one for jabbing people right where they're most sensitive and I'll learn not to walk around with my fingers at eye level and sticking out.

It goes for what I say too. If you're not comfortable being called Dude, Pal or anything else like that (I use them neutrally. Everyone's a dude) - Tell me. I'll take it on board and I'll stop. I want everyone to feel comfortable around me.

Sometimes, just a gentle nudge towards some light, informative reading may cause people to, y'know, learn something. It has worked for me. I joined Google+ back in 2011/2012 and I met and befriended a lot of LGBT folks. I thought I was straight. I really did. Now with help and understanding over those fine folks (Who are still friends, both Tumblr and Twitter), I've learned about Asexuality, Polyamory, Pansexuality, trans causes, and what it is to be Trans.

I am still learning, there will be times when me (and others) may slip up. For the most part, we don't mean it. We want to understand. But attacking people and calling upon others to do the same is not going to help. It's going to alienate people. It's going to make them angry. Fight hate with love and they'll realise they're being dickheads and they'll stop.

Unless they really are dickheads. Then just block and ignore them. <3